FROM MY CRYSTAL BOWL 3:

Past actions determine present.
Present’s saying what the future will be!


Let’s start with a simple analogy: your friend just bought a car. During the long time he was saving for it, you had a lot of fun partying, going out, spending money etc. Now you cannot but envy him a little and cannot but say something derogatory to ease your sense of envy. So you ridicule him about the slow way of accomplishing it, you make him feel slow and narrow minded, implementing he is not an ‘up to date’ guy at all, but rather an old-fashioned kind of a guy. He is hurt but says nothing in return, of course. After a week something happens and you need a transport urgently. You remember him buying a car and you ask him for a ride. Save to assume he will say no.
Everything works this way and we know it. We know it and despite the knowledge we perform wrong actions. Whether we do it out of envy or hurt is not important. Important is to know that we do it because we are in the mercy of our egos which we aren’t able to control. We have no self – knowledge to do it better.

It is true; most of us like to exploit others, but we don’t like it when we feel exploited ourselves. Wanting to hurt or annoy others is a very thoughtless state. It comes from the self-centeredness and has no positive response. In fact, it always falls back at us because others too are a world to themselves and they must protect themselves – just like us, they live by the first and the most basic instinct which is surviving. At the end, hurting others will fall back at us like a boomerang.

In order to act today in a way to have better responses tomorrow, we need self-knowledge. But we cannot get it by buying it and we cannot get it through some effort or practice. Self-knowledge will be achieved only when one observes himself in his relationship with others, with his friend, work colleagues and with his family – with all the people around.
When you look into the mirror you see your face, and whether you like it or not, it is you and you’ll accept it and know about the way you look. When you observe others, their manners, their gestures, the way they wear clothes, the way they talk and when you then start to see yourself and your responses to people while socializing, the self-knowledge will come. If you can look into the mirror of relationships as you look into the mirror, then the self-knowledge will come and then only you will be able to act today in a way the tomorrow responses will be to your liking.

Reincarnation works this way as well, like most of us know. It is the law of cause and effect and the most sane and logical explanation of divine powers and purpose – which is learning. You weren’t good, fair and just to your wife, next time you will get to know how that felt like yourself. You abandoned your child? Lets see how it feels next time you are born! We learn about everything with having many lessons repeated, but learn we will. There is no escape to that. What is the reason we don’t know about the final tests? What will be our destination after we have learned it all? I don’t know, like I don’t understand the higher mathematics and physics which I have never learned. However, our lives are not about mathematics and physics, but about human growth in relationship to others.

FROM MY CRYSTAL BOWL 2:

WHAT BRINGS ABOUT FEAR & JEALOUSY?


COMPARISSON!


When we compare ourselves to others who we consider better, richer, more beautiful we fear that we may not be better, richer and more beautiful than them. In our competitive world, the fear of not being good enough will overcome insecure people fast. This people but all have one thing in common; they are afraid of being alone with themselves. Inwardly they are poor and they are poor because they don’t do anything to fill this void as this would require work for and on themselves. This way one might discover things about the self that aren’t so good, that we don’t like. What then? Nobody is perfect, that’s for once and secondly one can do something against it, work on the self which does require courage, though. Not looking at it, refusing to look into the self might be the easier way out, some might think. But then, they better be obstinate inside out which definitely is not the way to happiness.

Jealousy implies dissatisfaction with what you are and envy of others, does it not? To be discontented with what you are is the very beginning of envy. One wants to be different from what one is and this desire is the cause of envy and jealousy. The only help would be to seek understanding for what or how you are – your psychological essence. To understand what or how one is constructed but is difficult because it requires complete freedom and absence of comparison.

To be inwardly rich is much more arduous than to be outwardly rich and famous. It need much more care, much closer attention. If you have a little talent and know how to exploit it, you become famous, but inwardly richness does not come about in that way. To be inwardly rich, the mind has to understand and put away the things that are not important, like wanting to be famous or very popular. Inward richness implies standing alone. But the man who wants to be famous and popular is afraid to stand alone because he depends on people’s flattery and good opinion.

Power is one more thing we want to have and fear we don’t. But what is power: Electricity? Atomic power? Yes, and they are good as they can be used to benefit mankind, but the power of the mind used to gain something for itself is evil. We begin the struggle for power very early, already within the family and the evil expends until it becomes the tyranny of government, of political leaders and religious interpreters. The only answer to this evil is love and kindness, to be really considerate. Love is timeless and has its own eternity – and where there is love there is no evil power.

FROM MY CRYSTAL BOWL 1:

THE PERSONS GREATEST EMOTIONAL NEED IS TO FEEL APPRECIATED!

Appreciable – capable of being perceived or measured
Appreciate – to understand the nature, worth, quality or significance of ~, to recognize with gratitude, value…from Latin ad + pretium, the price.
Appreciation – sensitive awareness; esp. recognition of aesthetic values / a judgment, evaluation / expression of admiration, approval or gratitude / an increase in value
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All religions speak of the holly trinity of body, mind and spirit. Celts and their Druids (priests) who worshiped trees knew it and lived according to the holly trinity, too. Worshiping nature indeed is the perfect analogy, or a truly wonderful way of worshiping divine powers (which to us are not to be reveled directly as it seems). This is because the nature can well exist without us but we cannot exist without the nature. 2500 BC three quarters of Europe was still covered by the forest, and to the Celts there every tree, every lake, hill or mountain had its own soul with the Dair, which is the Celt name for the Oak, having the highest, the most powerful spirit.
The tree is a good analogy for the trinity: first there are the roots deep in the soil that nourish the tree, keeping it alive which might be compared to the soul or to the awareness. Then we have the trunk that carries and bind the soul and the spirit - this is the body, the spine that binds the genitival awareness with the cosmic awareness which is the spirit, the crown of the tree. Each one of the three components but needs its own food in order the whole creation can survive because one cannot exist without the other.
Body needs material food to get going, mind does the analytical procedure of information we daily receive and cope with, and spirit needs spiritual or emotional food in order to function well. If you don’t give or feed the body, if you starve it, the mind and the spirit will leave it and look for a new body. If the spirit does not get its food… well, we do know that the body does not function without spirit for long. So, we have to take care, we must nourish all three components well in order to have a good, productive and satisfactory life.

Even on the unconscious level, we always know what we are doing – and why. We have an innate knowledge about what’s right or wrong. There are many poor reasons for not showing appreciation to somebody who would deserve it - with jealousy among them being the most painful one. We know that jealousy is a lack of self-esteem, a feeling of worthlessness of the self. If I show appreciation, than I am less than him/her but I want to be more, is how the ego dictates and demands such poor behavior, and prevents one to show appreciation where it is due.

Men’s first and basic right but is that of the freedom, so if we know we have done something good to somebody who can barely squeeze a ‘thank you’ out of his month, we will feel hurt unappreciated and will turn away from this person.

To appreciate appreciative people is the most sane thing to do – and honest.
If one doesn’t show appreciation for others, others won’t appreciate him.
Appreciation expressed is like petrol tanked into the car. No fuel – no motion. And this goes for both parties.